Thank you for sharing this. After a traumatic (but very quick) birth, I didn’t want to hold my baby: he just reminded me of what had happened. I now love him with my whole heart, but it took a while. I had to decide to love him at first, rather than feel the love. I don’t think we talk about this: so many times I heard, “oh you just love them as soon as you set eyes on them”, and I was like, no, I didn’t; am I a bad mum? The answer’s no! I know I’m a good mum. But we don’t talk about the births where it takes a while to feel the love. So thank you for sharing and making me feel less alone I. My experience 🥰
Thank you so much for the comment, Holly! I absolutely agree with you. We don’t talk about these things enough because they are difficult and make us feel shame. But I think there are a lot of moms with similar experiences and it’s totally normal for that “love” feeling to take a while to grow 💜
Lauren, I love your honesty in this, really around your birth experience. Mine was very traumatic and I did not experience love at first sight. Like you said, when my son got here, I was too tired to even care and I felt such shame for that for so long. Thank you for this read, it was healing.
Thank you for the comment Emma!! I’m so glad that it was a healing read for you 💜 @BirthTraumaMama on instagram and apple podcasts has really helped me to process everything- I highly recommend her!
So well written Lauren! I’m not a mom yet but I can already relate to the honesty and realism you shared here. Your daughter has an amazing role model to look up to.
Sweet friend - what an honest recollection and it's the hardest job you'll ever love, to be a parent. Proud of you and thank you for sharing the candid details of your birthing experience. I know many moms who could appreciate the truth in this.
Thank you for sharing this. After a traumatic (but very quick) birth, I didn’t want to hold my baby: he just reminded me of what had happened. I now love him with my whole heart, but it took a while. I had to decide to love him at first, rather than feel the love. I don’t think we talk about this: so many times I heard, “oh you just love them as soon as you set eyes on them”, and I was like, no, I didn’t; am I a bad mum? The answer’s no! I know I’m a good mum. But we don’t talk about the births where it takes a while to feel the love. So thank you for sharing and making me feel less alone I. My experience 🥰
Thank you so much for the comment, Holly! I absolutely agree with you. We don’t talk about these things enough because they are difficult and make us feel shame. But I think there are a lot of moms with similar experiences and it’s totally normal for that “love” feeling to take a while to grow 💜
Lauren, I love your honesty in this, really around your birth experience. Mine was very traumatic and I did not experience love at first sight. Like you said, when my son got here, I was too tired to even care and I felt such shame for that for so long. Thank you for this read, it was healing.
Thank you for the comment Emma!! I’m so glad that it was a healing read for you 💜 @BirthTraumaMama on instagram and apple podcasts has really helped me to process everything- I highly recommend her!
I will definitely check her out.
Thanks for sharing!! Love your writing sista and how honest you are. Such a good read that I’m sure all moms can relate to!
thanks sis that means a lot 💜
So well written Lauren! I’m not a mom yet but I can already relate to the honesty and realism you shared here. Your daughter has an amazing role model to look up to.
thanks always for your encouragement & support, friend. it means the world!!
Sweet friend - what an honest recollection and it's the hardest job you'll ever love, to be a parent. Proud of you and thank you for sharing the candid details of your birthing experience. I know many moms who could appreciate the truth in this.
thanks for reading and for the kind words, Ngan 💜💜💜